For youngsters lust works better than love?
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by NSmurthy
But does lust, which is all about craving and carnal instincts, remain unchanged when one’s been in a relationship for long? “Anyone who says the degree of lust in a relationship is a constant is lying through his teeth,” says Bollywood Dream Girl Hema Malini. “Lust becomes a casualty in a situation of over familiarity, where you know the person in and out, warts, moles, et al. What to talk about lust when there are times you don’t even want to touch each other; such is the extent of boredom. But let’s not mistake lust for love. Love thrives and prospers in a happy marriage or relationship, lust needs rekindling and reactivation,” she says.
Marriage and relationship experts, however, maintain that it is a combination of love and lust that keeps the relationship alive. “A good amount of sexual attraction is very necessary for a healthy relationship,” says psychologist Mary Rajan. Women must keep their men continuously lusting after them, she offers. Arvind N, a model, elaborates, “Women have no patience for men with paunches and uncouth habits. Nor do men take kindly to women who dress and behave like old hags. At a time when the institution of marriage is under scrutiny and attack, your looks can impact your lust factor and take you where even money and security can’t.”
Lust makes way for desire in a marriage or any long-term relationship. Lust is all about physical and basic instincts, whereas desire embodies within itself the spiritual aspect as well. “Couples need to work at keeping their desirability quotient high,” emphasises Hema. True love, says well-known model Shawar Ali, never dies. “And lust and desire should not be allowed to die,” he adds. So there we are. It’s both crackling chemistry and soul connection that secure relationship bonds. And that requires work. Aah, love’s labour lust, anyone!
